Six years ago, to his love letter

Six years ago, to his love letter

By admin 0 Comment 2019-01-13

Six years ago, to his love letter Hey girl: Six years ago today, you just returned from the hospital back, pale, weakness, because you just lost a baby there is no fate came to earth.  At the time you do not know what the future where the marriage go in, and what will be their future look like.  Today is the case of coincidence, from that night confused you just six years, and I am now just in the hospital, let me talk to you from 28 years old to 34 years old that occurred six years, you do not know those things.  ? From Lost to find the real parents are themselves grew up in military families, accustomed to obey orders in all actions.What school, what profession newspaper, go to any country, even married people have to listen to what his father, because he is the leader and heads home.  Although there own preference on the intuition that time, but knew sooner or later will be suppressed, so I gave up their own minds, and it really got separated themselves.  After marriage, etc., when not a command, but do not know where to go in life.Parents can not help life, sooner or later have to rely on their own life too.  I started to find their own true inner journey at sea blue happy home.  From the beginning of the anger and fear dominate life, through contemplation and their distance, to feel their needs are behind the wish to be seen to be heard, respected, trusted, be accepted, and loved; self-care by the kindness and care given to the suffering of their own, rather than give himself shot the arrow on the criticism of the sad and vulnerable time.  As well as with the help of part of psychology, finally know fragile, sadness, anger, fear, shame is just a part of me, not me.I was really caring, calm, clarity, courage, connection, self-confidence, curiosity, creation, always with awareness, invite true self to guide the various parts of the front row together.  When in true self, you can hear the inner voice, then as Steve Jobs said to follow your heart (follow the inner voice).  ? In relationships I have said to myself from girlhood to have my full of goodwill in these three words, which means that someone will always be by your side to protect you, love you, protect you.  So when you walk into insecure marriage, you begin to put this marriage Jinjinzuanzhu quicksand, I hope you love the fragile helpless when my father, at the time when the proliferation of maternal love you son, when you need to talk to when a friend, a lover in the romantic.  However, marriage is not the prince and princess live happily ever after together, the more tightly clutched the hands of the sand, the more the loss of happiness.The relationship between the two got married, her daughter was born-law relationships, work and social differences husband, so you marriage only disappointed, obviously in marriage, only left himself a lonely.  Honey, if it is now, I will say to you: I have.But the marriage of homework to be done step by step, no shortcuts.He began to change themselves, initially also want them to see your changes certainly appreciates you, then know that change is not for others, but for yourself.  This came six years, and his wife will still be quarrels and angry, but now even the wife said: Now quarrel cycles are getting longer, more and more strength is weak, and you will give it another step down.  I know, because you give up hope, he said I am, but I said to myself there.  German Chancellor Angela Merkel has said: A good marriage is two people together to look ahead, rather than have each other in the eye.So marriage is not always watching each other’s shortcomings and deficiencies, but with each other and use resources to create the future for a better life.  ? Unconditional love and acceptance is the best gift a child six years since I think it makes you most proud of her daughter must be it, because you spend the most time and effort to accompany and witness her grow up, she also your heart the softest position.  Once the stars and daughter together, you ask what is happiness, she said good feeling is happiness, now think of it in that moment so beautiful.  Before children go to school, you do not have to report what her English classes, math classes, spelling class, only reported her wish to study painting class.  But you took her to the United States, Japan, Korea, Malaysia as well as domestic many places, because you know eutrophication daughter not to give children the best material life, but let the children has the most extensive life experience, took her to walk more, see more of the scenery.  All love their children, to accept the child’s ordinary, but at the same time enjoy the children to do their real attitude, and from the inside exudes confidence.  Maybe I’m not the perfect mother, but I am willing to do the most sincere mother, cherish spend with his children years.Because whether we want it, the next life, and children are not goodbye.  ? Tear down the wall of the heart, feel the flow of love in front of their parents six years of strong fortitude of Mom and Dad, you are strong internal external sad it.Knowing that loves his parents, but they do not feel their love, as if between parents and separated by a core wall, the love of parents could not come, their love can not get out.  When combing in the contemplation of life, when you see yourself included many of today’s quality comes from her mother, to see what they have today a lot of life comes from my father, and my heart that the real collapse of the wall, felt the parents the flow of love.  Dad is not easy to begin to understand the strength behind it, behind her mother know fortitude alone.Who always complain about life in the family full of the cold war, but even so, parents will never owe me, they not only give my precious life, but also efforts to play the role of a good parent.  As a daughter, at this moment I am filled with gratitude and emotion.  ? Growth is life affect your life when just joined the navy happy home life really understand the impact for life.Now we finally realize that no one can change others by speaking the truth, no one can be changed for others, willingness to produce only internal changes, can really do a butterfly.  See some companions at the time of affliction, yet on the fate of a smile, gratitude wells up, cherish their moment of happiness in a team; when you see some companions move to accelerate growth in the road of transformation, the TA will TA learning to follow the example of the front row; affect life in this life bit by bit in a quietly.  You retreat is 146 students, has more than 400 juniors today after more than three years, to see when they will learn to use to create a happy life, sincerely admire the power of peers in the system, it really experience to accompany and witness the growth of each other happy.  Companion on the road to grow, although not common surface, but often miss a meeting, then there is endless talk, laugh endless joy.Met each partner, will be the mirror that reflects a part of you will add to your life fineness.  ? Finally, would like to chat with you six years ago, the decision is really no right or wrong decision, then that moment and that is the most appropriate, accept their imperfections, put the past also let yourself.  The past six years, you start to grow up, willing to take responsibility for my own life, willing to take the results for their own choices.The past six years, suffered pain and suffering you have experienced, enough to prove that you really tried, right from their own, but also from the family of.  Each life came to this world, you need to complete homework is different, but the meaning behind these lessons are similar, and that is to meet yourself, accept yourself and love yourself, to accompany yourself, and then do the real self.  Congratulations, Miss, you have through the fog, to find the missing own.Author: Lu Jiahai blue happy family retreat raw Editor: Fang Fang Huang Ying